Attention Young Women!
wonderful books we
recommend to inspire creativity, health and good old fashioned self-lovin’
(photo from Anna Barnes' blog Julia Bluhm (middle) is an 8th grader from the USA who led a protest with her friends against unrealistic images in magazines).
As you will be well aware of, we are
constantly surrounded by ads, images, slogans, magazines and yes, even books,
that love to tell us all the things we’re doing wrong, what is not quite right
about us; what is considered ‘beautiful’ and what a ‘real’ woman looks like, and
how that is so not us.
These messages affect everyone, but they
often seem to target young women in particular. Sometimes they’re obvious
messages, such as magazine articles about how to ‘get that guy and keep him’,
that enforce rules about how you should think about and behave in certain
situations. Other times they’re more
subtle, for example when was the last time you saw a woman in a magazine who
was not super-skinny, super-stylish
with perfect hair and make-up? You might look at one such image and know that
it is unrealistic and superficial, but the repetition can really wear you down
over time and keep you focussed on the things you don’t have, instead of celebrating the things you do have.
The information we receive is also often
confusing and conflicted. Are you supposed to be a proactive modern woman, or
hold out til the cute guy you have a crush on texts you? Are you supposed to love-your-body-just-the-way-it-is,
or be-the-best-you-be by eating nothing but grapefruits? What about if you don't want to wear make up at all? Or hook up with a guy at all? Are you
skanky if you wear short skirts or are you just expressing how free and
empowered you are?
Magazine editors assume a lot about us that just may not be true, and they often try to answer these questions for us, based on their assumptions. I believe however, the more important questions for us
women to be asking is who decides the answers to these questions for us? Is it
us? Our friends? Our mums? Or Cosmo? What do we/they hope to gain from one
answer versus another? Should we just ignore them?
Although we young women are smart, savvy
people who can clearly spot the bullc**p and make up our own minds about these
things, sometimes we need our fears and anxieties acknowledged, to feel like we’re
attractive, to fit in with the crowd we identify with. We need to see our own
experiences reflected, without judgement.
We also need good information. Growing
up has a lot of challenges and it can be hard to negotiate the world of
fad-diets, the pressure to have sex, the weird things our bodies surprise us
with and friendships that are constantly shifting-and all this on top of making
your mum happy and finishing your homework!
So here are some books we’ve picked out from our shop that offer down-to-earth advice to women of all ages, that celebrate diversity,
that are full of DIY ideas to inspire creativity, reassure you, make you think
about the world outside your neighbourhood or just lay down the 'facts of life'.
1. Things My Daughter Needs to Know: Dilvin
Yasa: Aged 16+
Written in a series of letters to her
daughter, Dilvin Yasa provides a totally unpretentious and mostly hilarious
version of growing up, making mistakes and sorting out what really matters to
you. With solid advice such as “in case you do need to take a walk of shame,
keep a spare change of clothes and a toothbrush at work so you can clean up before
anyone sees you...” you can’t go wrong!
2. Secret Girls’ Business: Maggie Hamilton:
Aged 13+
This book has just about everything. Filled
with DIY fashion and design ideas, amazing recipes and advice on dealing with
everything from boys to bullying, to grief and body image. Along the way many
women share their stories of following their dreams, overcoming challenges and
forging new paths.
3. Girl! The Ultimate Guide to Being You: Anna
Barnes: Aged 12+
What is feminism? What are human rights?
Climate whhaaa? This book deals with these issues and more in a clear and
accessible way for young women, emphasising that getting along with your
friends and family is just as important as social justice or world peace. It’s
full of fun DIY activities from writing letters to the editor and caring for
the environment, to making your ‘zines’ and preparing home-made skin care.
For those who are keen to know more about this particular one, author Anna Barnes has a FANTASTIC BLOG (as seen above with the first photo in this post) you can check out, that continues on from the book, with tonnes of new stuff as well!
4. Girl Stuff: Kaz Cooke: Aged 13+
It’s been around a few years now but we
still love it. Hilarious cartoons, plenty of facts based on thorough research,
down-to-earth advice and a solid section dedicated to queer issues, which,
unfortunately, is rare in most mainstream puberty and sex-education books. Drugs
and their effects, the pressure to have sex, money, shopping, pregnancy, post
traumatic stress disorder; there’s almost nowhere this book does not go, but it’s
sensitive, and probably informative for almost all young women-and some older
ones too!
5. One In Every Crows: Ivan E Coyote: Aged 14+
Now unlike the previous books, this one isn't a non-fiction guidebook, but hitherto the queer youth have been
missing out, so this one for them. Prefaced with a letter the author wrote to
their teenage self, it offers fictional short stories about queer or
questioning kids, addressing some big issues that are often ignored at best,
and at worst prohibited. We therefore consider it up there with the best guides for teens, recognising that we all have really different experiences and that when we talk about 'young women' we're talking about a seriously diverse group of people!
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